I strongly agree with what you say at the start, if I could choose I would do it again. But not like this. Not in these conditions. Instead of feeling valued, I feel like most aspects of life are actively working against me, trying not to empower me in case I want too much. This might be amplified as a single mother of children with addi…
I strongly agree with what you say at the start, if I could choose I would do it again. But not like this. Not in these conditions. Instead of feeling valued, I feel like most aspects of life are actively working against me, trying not to empower me in case I want too much. This might be amplified as a single mother of children with additional needs but I know others feel it. I learn to mother myself daily to rise when I need to but fall again the next minute, this is not linear and never feels enough. I often wonder - will either of my girls want to be a mother after seeing my experience? I'm not sure it looks that appealing. Yet I would do it again?!?
It’s sad to hear that most aspects of life are not working to build you up Lisa!
You make a great point about compounding factors like being a single mother raising kids with additional needs.
Those mothering self moments can be fleeting for sure. Ooh will your girls want to mother in the same conditions? I hope your girls and mine have more nourishing structural conditions than the ones we experience.
No regrets here about being a mother - I regret the conditions!
I strongly agree with what you say at the start, if I could choose I would do it again. But not like this. Not in these conditions. Instead of feeling valued, I feel like most aspects of life are actively working against me, trying not to empower me in case I want too much. This might be amplified as a single mother of children with additional needs but I know others feel it. I learn to mother myself daily to rise when I need to but fall again the next minute, this is not linear and never feels enough. I often wonder - will either of my girls want to be a mother after seeing my experience? I'm not sure it looks that appealing. Yet I would do it again?!?
It’s sad to hear that most aspects of life are not working to build you up Lisa!
You make a great point about compounding factors like being a single mother raising kids with additional needs.
Those mothering self moments can be fleeting for sure. Ooh will your girls want to mother in the same conditions? I hope your girls and mine have more nourishing structural conditions than the ones we experience.
No regrets here about being a mother - I regret the conditions!