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Sarina Zoe's avatar

I feel you and me and all mothers in this.

Thank you for your indefatigable message 💜💜💜

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Danusia Malina-Derben's avatar

Right here in the thick of it—with you and every mother who’s done performing grace. The message is clear, and this time, we’re not whispering.

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Sarina Zoe's avatar

🙌🏽

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Wake Lloire's avatar

I loved this piece. Fierce. I’m guessing by the amount of people talking about motherhood today, that there is a national holiday happening where you are?

We “celebrate” Mother’s Day the second Sunday in May (but I feel similarly about its purpose…)

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Danusia Malina-Derben's avatar

Thank you! Yes—Mother’s Day in the UK yesterday, and the air was thick with passive-aggressive flowers. I’ll be ready with a megaphone for May too. This roar’s got range.

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Wake Lloire's avatar

💖💖💖

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Sophia Freigang's avatar

For whatever reason I’m unable to ‘like’ your replies. So here’s 💖💖 for both!! I appreciate your Words, your Wisdom and your Spirit.

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Danusia Malina-Derben's avatar

Your likes and words are so appreciated 👯‍♀️

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Sophia Freigang's avatar

Thank you SO MUCH for writing this! I felt seen in an underground way, sane-made and validated. 💐💐💐

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Danusia Malina-Derben's avatar

This means the world—thank you. I’m all for underground sanity rituals and rogue validation. Here’s to saying the quiet parts out loud. 🫶🏼

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Francesca Bossert's avatar

This hits hard, Danusia. I've never been that fussed about Mother's Day, it's always struck me as forced and fake; flowers (or OMG how dare they? a Moulinex!!) to placate us. I'm glad to hear women finding their next level roar. God knows we're going to have to increase the volume...

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Danusia Malina-Derben's avatar

Yes, yes, yes. Forced flowers and performative platitudes? Keep them. I want rage in surround sound. And I want it loud enough to rattle the bloody Moulinex off the shelf.

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Sophia Freigang's avatar

Fcuking brilliant! And horrifically resonant. 😞🥺 We need another Icelandic “Women’s Day Off” Strike (1975) - except in ALL countries!!! 💪💪💪🔥🔥🔥

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Danusia Malina-Derben's avatar

💯Agree—one strike’s not enough. We need a full-scale refusal. Not just a day off, but a dismantling. Iceland 1975 was the warning shot. This time, we finish the job. 🛠️

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Megan Lee's avatar

Wow... this is powerful. ❤️‍🔥

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Danusia Malina-Derben's avatar

Takes one to know fire. Thanks for fanning the flames.

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Catherine's avatar

Ah yes. Mothers, you are nurturing and bringing up the next generation of humans. A vital job, you're doing so well! Now do it quietly with no help and don't expect to be even noticed, let alone praised 🙄

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Danusia Malina-Derben's avatar

It’s the oldest trick in the book: call it sacred, then starve it of support. 🙄

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Julie M Green's avatar

Wow 🔥

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Danusia Malina-Derben's avatar

Right?! Burned my fingers writing it.

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Violet Carol's avatar

Ooooooof this needs to go viral 😭🔥

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Sara Carbone's avatar

Ive shared this. I genuinely cannot stop thinking about it. And appreciate your term - motherwashing. It’s been there in the ethers for me, tip of the tongue. This is 🔥 thank you

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Christen Wood's avatar

I want this written on my walls.

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